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The Best Careers for Your Personality Type

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A double life

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By Lea Winerman

In an interview with Nancy Segal (pictured above), Lea Winerman discovers the mystery of twins. Things that can be considered as ”coincidences” in two individuals who share the same appearance, but are obviously two very different individuals. As a psychologist and a twin, Nancy spent her career studying what makes identical twins unique. This included indepth study of nature vs nurture issues – what role our genes and environment play in shaping us.

Read the article and discover these ”coincidences” that can happen to twins separated at birth and who, later in life, discover each other, only to find strange similarities in their lives, despite having been apart for most of their lives.

This article makes for interesting reading indeed.

A double life

The excerpt below via APA.

”As a child, Nancy Segal, PhD, knew that she was a twin, but she didn’t always feel like one. She and her sister, fraternal twins, didn’t look anything alike and had few interests in common. Meanwhile, a set of identical twins whom she knew from school seemed incredibly similar and in tune with one another.

Segal was fascinated by the contrast. “I would think: My sister and I have the same parents, the same school, some of the same friends — why are we so different?”

Years later, in graduate school, Segal turned her attention to studying the topic that had fascinated her since childhood. In the 1980’s and ’90’s, she worked on the landmark Minnesota Study of Twins Reared Apart. That research, which looked at identical twins who were reared apart and only met as adults, found remarkable similarities between those virtual strangers, suggesting that genes strongly influence aspects of our personality, intelligence and other traits that had long been thought to be mainly shaped by environment.

Today, Segal continues to study twins reared apart, as well as other “twin-like” pairs, such as look-alike but unrelated “doppelgangers,” to see what they can tell us about how genes and environment affect both twins and everyone else.”

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8 Ways Happy People Approach The World Differently

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BY SHANNON KAISER 

You know those people, the ones who seem to have a permanent glow. They’re always smiling and have infectious energy oozing out of their pores. How did they get to be so happy?

I’ve made tremendous strides in my life to reach happiness, leaving a corporate job after burnout, depression, drug addictions and eating disorders. I’ve come to realize being and staying happy is no small feat. It actually has little to do with outside influences. Real happiness comes with daily action and inward focus.

Creating happiness as a habit is possible. But just like any redirection in life, the small, subtle steps often reap the largest rewards. Here are the super-subtle habits of happy people.

1. They think with their hearts.

Instead of trying to solve problems by overanalyzing, worrying or stressing out, the happiest people in the world trust the advice of their heart. They are in touch with their intuition and feelings.

2. They are in love with the process.

Truly happy people understand the journey is the reward. The process of reaching your goals is more about the journey. They’ve learned “here” is the most important part of life. When we can be present for the process, we can feel fully alive and joyful.

3. They are curious about the unknown.

Instead of fearing the unknown or worrying about what will happen, happy people focus on what they want and take steps to make things happen. They are curious about life and allow it to unfold naturally.

4. They put more faith in love over fear.

Happy people use their strengths and focus on what they are good at. They know their talent is more powerful than their fears. And they choose loving thoughts and perceptions over fear-based reactions.

5. They forgive themselves for judging others.

Yes, the happiest people in the world still fall into judgment and jealousy. The difference? They quickly bounce out. Comparing ourselves to others is part of being human, but happy folks forgive themselves and others, and choose not to hang out in this emotion. They also send love and compassion to the people who hurt them the most. When you can forgive others and yourself, you will feel inner peace.

6. They change their minds.

Happy peeps appreciate the growth and contrast that comes with living life fully, which means changing their mind is not a step back, but rather a step forward. Changing your mind, from career choices, relationships, places you live, even changing up dreams, is about honoring your internal compass.

7. They let go.

Happy people let go of situations and things that drag them down, including people. They aren’t afraid to let go ofrelationships or walk away from negative people. Burning bridges is not something they set out to do, but happy people recognize some people are not meant to stay in their lives. Happy people surround themselves with support, including uplifting people who believe in them.

8. They know family matters.

No matter what, at the end of it all, we have our family. Despite our differences, family is the most important part of living a rich life. Whether you are close to your immediate family or your family of friends, leaning on people we love and supporting one another is essential for a fulfilling life. Tell someone you love how much they mean to you today. It will make all the difference in the world.

For more inspiration on how to be happy grab this FREE Love Your Life To The Fullest Guide.

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About the Author

Shannon Kaiser has been labeled a modern thought leader on the rise by CafeTruth. She is the bestselling author of “Find Your Happy, an Inspirational Guide to Loving Life to Its Fullest,” and the founder of the website playwiththeworld.com, which was awarded Top 75 Best Personal Growth Websites and top 100 Self-Help Blogs on the internet by The Institute for the Psychology of Eating. Connect on her author Facebook Page @Shannon Kaiser Writes or Twitter.

She left her successful career in advertising to follow her heart and be a writer, life coach, inspirational speaker, travel writer and author. She is a five-time contributing author to Chicken Soup for The Soul. Shannon’s work has been featured in media outlets such as Good Morning America, Good Day New York, and Inside Edition. She’s writing her next book The Mental Makeover (Berkley/ Penguin Random House 2015).

 

Field Guide to the Goody Two-Shoes

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Via Field Guide to the Goody Two-Shoes | Psychology Today.

Why tattletales are so annoying.

Never Be Manipulated Again

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Via Never Be Manipulated Again | Psychology Today.

Beware of people who ask too much of you. Something deeper may be at play.

Narcissists Are Capable of Empathy After All – Pacific Standard: The Science of Society

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Narcissists Are Capable of Empathy After All - Pacific Standard: The Science of Society

by Tom Jacobs

New research from the U.K. suggests people with narcissistic tendencies can be moved by others’ suffering.•

Can narcissists really change? The just-completed half-season of Mad Men, in which the self-centered Don Draper has gradually settled into a new role as a supportive friend and team player, appears to be answering that question in the affirmative. But is this alpha male’s evolution into empathy realistic?

Newly published research from Britain suggests it is.

In three experiments, a team led by University of Surrey psychologist Erica Hepper provides evidence that, under the right conditions, narcissists can indeed be moved by the suffering of others.

“Although it appears that narcissists’ low empathy is relatively automatic … there is potential for change,” the researchers write in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.

“The reason for (narcissists’) low empathy is not inability.” Caring about another person’s problems is not their default response, but this study suggests it can be induced by a simple instruction to see things from his or her point of view.

Their first experiment confirmed what we all know: Narcissists tend to have a chilly response to others’ problems. A group of 282 online volunteers responded to a series of statements designed to measure their levels of “adaptive narcissism” (that is, their sense of authority and self-sufficiency) and “maladaptive narcissism” (feelings of entitlement and tendency to exploit others).

Presented with various versions of a vignette in which a person describes a recent break-up, the narcissists displayed a lack of empathy, “virtually irrespective of whether the person’s situation is relatively mild or severe (in terms of the pain it caused), and whether that person was somewhat in control, and thus partly culpable, or not.”

The second experiment featured 95 female undergraduates who completed the same test to measure narcissistic tendencies. One to six months later, they watched a 10-minute documentary in which a woman describes being the victim of domestic violence.

Half the participants were instructed beforehand to “imagine how Susan feels.” The others were told to imagine they were at home watching the report on television. All then reported their level of care and concern for the woman.

While those who ranked low in narcissism responded with the same level of empathy regardless of the instructions, those with narcissistic tendencies “reported significantly higher empathy for Susan when they had been instructed to take her perspective,” the researchers write. Simply being told to see things from her point of view—something that does not come naturally for narcissists—allowed them to step outside themselves and feel something for her.

Ah, but were they faking it? The third and final experiment suggests not. A group of 88 undergraduates performed a similar test, getting one of the two aforementioned instructions and then listening to an audio blog in which a person describes a difficult romantic break-up. Only in this case, the participants were hooked up to monitors that measured their heart rate.

When imagining they were listening at home, “high narcissists evinced significantly lower heart rates while exposed to a target character’s distress,” the researchers report. “This suggests that narcissists’ lack of empathy is more than skin-deep. “However, crucially, taking the character’s perspective wiped out the decline in heart rate evinced by those high in maladaptive narcissism.” Their physiological response gives them away: They were actually feeling something.

The bottom line, according to Hepper and her colleagues: “The reason for (narcissists’) low empathy is not inability.” Caring about another person’s problems is not their default response, but this study suggests it can be induced by a simple instruction to see things from his or her point of view.

The researchers consider this particularly good news, “given recent evidence of rising narcissism levels and falling empathy levels.” If, as some studies suggest, we’re getting more narcissistic as a society, it’s a relief to know the condition can be modified.

Tom Jacobs
Staff writer Tom Jacobs is a veteran journalist with more than 20 years experience at daily newspapers. He has served as a staff writer for The Los Angeles Daily News and the Santa Barbara News-Press. His work has also appeared in The Los Angeles TimesChicago Tribune, and Ventura County Star.

When No One’s Watching, Are You Still Likely to Do Good?

There are two competing selves inside you. Which usually wins?

 

Art Markman, Ph.D., is a cognitive scientist at the University of Texas whose research spans a range of topics in the way people think.

Read original article here: When No One’s Watching, Are You Still Likely to Do Good? | Psychology Today.