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A lovely poem and video to remind us why we’re alive  

‘​This beautiful spoken-word poem and animated video will remind you why we live and why we love. And, yeah, it might just make you cry.’ [Daniels:2016]

Source:

DANIELS, Allison.  2016. Spoken-Word Love Poem And Video Celebrate A Lifelong Love Story [Web:] MindBodyGreen.  [Date of Access:] 18 March 2016.

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What a dog can teach us about happiness

via @Artofimproving

Have you ever noticed the positive attitude dogs seem to have? They take every day as it comes and just ENJOY.

This video by Nat Johnson illustrates just that and suggests that we take the hint. Perhaps it is true that we, the ‘masters’ of the animal, can indeed learn something from them.

Read the article here.

Source:

JOHNSON, Nat. n.d. What a dog can teach us about the meaning of life. [Web:] Ideapod.com. [Date of Access:] 8 January 2016

Want to reach career goals? Follow this simple morning routine.

Via @mindbodygreen

Original article by Tyler C Beaty

“For the past 12 years, I’ve worked from home. For 11 of those years, I was working for other people. On my typical day, after hitting the snooze button too many times to count, I’d crawl out of bed…” [1]

Sound familiar? To me it does. I’ve been a stay-at-home-mom for 16 years, but after finding myself in pj’s and still struggling to feed the baby around noon one day, I decided to venture out and DO something with my life.

I studied for a degree in Counseling and decided to further this experience by founding a NPO focusing on the needs of the poor in my community. But still, I got stuck in this rut. Most nights I’d lie awake, waiting for the awful sound of happy little birds twittering hello to the morning (how dare they sound so happy?). I’d worry about the next day and then, when it dawned, it would be business as usual. Kids off to school, husband off to work, household chores done, e-mails, social media….on and on it went….a seemingly useless cycle repeating itself day in and day out. Point is, I was getting nowhere. Worse, I was getting depressed because I felt like I was not doing anything useful.

Reading this article I couldn’t help but smile…..I’m slowly getting into the ”program” suggested by the author and finally I’ve found that I can actually live a useful life. I can actually reach the goals I’ve set for myself. I’m finally taking charge of every day.

Have a read below, I’ve pointed out the different steps suggested by the author, steps you can take to regain control of your days and thus reach your career goals – become what YOU have dreamed of and not what your chaotic life allows you to become. Please DO read the full article here for a more detailed discussion.

  1. Prepare the night before
  2. Meditate
  3. Visualize
  4. Get inspired
  5. Exercise
  6. Keep a journal
  7. Stretch

[Read more details of these 7 points here.]

Ask yourself the question: Do you own your days?

Source:

[1] A Simple Morning Routine That Helped Me Reach My Career Goals & Make More Money – mindbodygreen.com

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Living with Purpose in Old Age

@TheNewOldAge #PaulaSpan #OldAge #PurposefulLife

Via The New Old Age by Paula Span

My late father had a longtime friend, a retired kosher butcher, who lived down the hall in their South Jersey apartment building. Past 90, Manny was older and frailer than my father; he leaned on a cane and could barely see well enough to recognize faces. But every morning, and again in late afternoon, he walked through my dad’s unlocked front door to be sure he was all right and to kibitz a bit.

Manny made the rounds, also looking in on several other aged residents in their so-called N.O.R.C. (naturally occurring retirement community). Unless he was ill himself, he never missed a day.

Manny’s regular reconnaissance missions come to mind when I read about purpose, which is one of those things we recognize without quite knowing how to define. To psychologists, “purpose reflects a commitment to broader life goals that helps organize your day to day activities,” Patrick Hill, a psychologist at Carleton University in Ottawa, told me in an interview.

It’s a hard quality to measure, so researchers rely on how strongly people agree or disagree with statements like these:

“Some people wander aimlessly through life, but I am not one of them.”
“I feel good when I think of what I have done in the past and what I hope to do in the future.”
“I live life one day at a time and do not really think about the future.”
“I sometimes feel as if I have done all there is to do in life.”

It turns out that purpose is, on many counts, a good thing to have, long associated with satisfaction and happiness, better physical functioning, even better sleep. “It’s a very robust predictor of health and wellness in old age,” said Patricia Boyle, a neuropsychologist at the Rush Alzheimer’s Disease Center in Chicago.

She and her colleagues have been tracking two cohorts of older people living independently in greater Chicago, assessing them regularly on a variety of physical, psychological and cognitive measures. The subjects agreed to donate their brains after their deaths.

What have the scientists learned? Let’s start with arguably the most feared disease of old age. Following almost 1,000 people (age 80, on average) for up to seven years, Dr. Boyle’s team found thatthe ones with high purpose scores were 2.4 times more likely to remain free of Alzheimer’s than those with low scores; they were also less likely to develop mild cognitive impairment, often a precursor.

“It also slowed the rate of cognitive decline by about 30 percent, which is a lot,” Dr. Boyle added.

In a subset of 246 people who died, autopsies found that many of the purposeful subjects also showed the distinctive markers of Alzheimer’s. “But even for people developing the plaques and tangles in their brains, having purpose in life allows you to tolerate them and still maintain your cognition,” Dr. Boyle said.

Purposeful people were less likely to develop disabilities. And they were less likely to die: a sample of 1,238 people followed for up to five years (average age: 78) by Rush researchers found that those with high purpose had roughly half the mortality rate of those with low purpose.

This protective effect holds through the years, according to a recent study by Dr. Hill, which relied on a national longitudinal study that enrolled 7,100 Americans aged 20 to 75. Those who died, in all age groups, scored significantly lower on purpose-in-life scales. The researchers looked at whether purpose had less effect after retirement, when “you’re starting to lose those structures you had, a natural way to organize your daily life,” Dr. Hill said. Somewhat to his surprise, work status didn’t matter.

In fact, both the Rush and the Carleton teams controlled for a host of other factors known to correlate with well-being — depression or “negative affect,” social relationships, chronic medical conditions and disability, demographic differences — and report that purpose in life, all by itself, appears to have a potent ability to improve and extend lives.

So how can we help older people hang onto a sense of purpose if their strength and mobility declines and their dependence on others increases? I’d like to hear your ideas. Isn’t that one of the most dispiriting aspect of life in nursing homes or assisted living, after all — the sense some residents develop that there’s no reason to live? Older people can stay busy with activities and multiple medical appointments, but many feel that what they do doesn’t matter.

“They want to make a contribution,” Dr. Boyle said. “They want to feel part of something that extends beyond themselves.” Though what provides purpose in one’s life varies, merely taking care of oneself probably doesn’t qualify. People with purpose “have a sense of their role in the community and the broader world,” Dr. Boyle said. She particularly mentioned mentoring, passing one’s memories or experiences on to younger people, as a way to stoke a sense of purpose.

The Jewish Association Serving the Aging, which provides services in metropolitan New York, takes a different tack. The organization’s Institute for Senior Action has trained more than a thousand older people to be “rabble rousers”; graduates have mobilized to restore city funding cut from a center for the elderly, for example.

Or maybe you adapt the things you’ve done and valued all your life. Manny, my dad’s friend, used to make home deliveries from his butcher shop. He was used to regularly visiting members of the small Jewish community in my hometown, hearing about their families and their lives as he dropped off bundles of kosher meat wrapped in paper.

Decades later, when his world had contracted, he was essentially still at it. He was providing a service (he did actually once find a neighbor on the floor and summoned an ambulance), and he was very diligent about it.

I’d call that purpose, wouldn’t you?


Paula Span is the author of “When the Time Comes: Families With Aging Parents Share Their Struggles and Solutions.”

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Why We Believe in Fate Sometimes

Clay Routledge

Via www.psychologytoday.com

 

Why We Believe in Fate, Sometimes

If you believe things are meant to be, do you let yourself off the hook?

5 Things Confident Women Do Differently

5 things confident woman do differently via www.mindbodygreen.com

5 Things Confident Women Do Differently

Via http://www.mindbodygreen.com

by Saren Stiegel

We all know those women — the ones who stride with an air of grace into a room. They’re not always the thinnest, prettiest, or smartest. They’re not arrogant. They’re the ones who make you want to be around them.

Growing up, all I seemed to do was make people run the other direction. My fears, neuroses, and quirks kept me hating myself. They also threw me into bouts of depression, eating disorders, and codependency.

Why can’t I be thinner? Prettier? Smarter? I continually asked. Then I changed the questions: What creates this aura, this vibe of confidence? What do these women do that I don’t?

Soon enough, I received an answer and I felt my vibe shift. My newfound confidence shifted my world — my career, my relationships, and my health.

After much study, discussion, and practice, I realized these five things are what confident women do differently than women who lack confidence. These have become my must-do’s for confidence:

1. They live their purpose.

Your purpose is to be authentically you. No more, no less. When you applaud your fears, neuroses, and quirks, suddenly these qualities become your assets.

Insecure about your body? So are millions of other women — embrace your goods and teach others to embrace theirs! Shameful of your intelligence? Forget the degrees and do what makes you feel like a genius! When you’re living your truth, you’re unstoppable.

2. They practice their unique ___ (Fill in: calming, uplifting, etc.) ritual.

Some of the greatest thinkers, artists, speakers, lawyers, and performers of our time have a preperformance ritual that gets them revved for show time. While a unique ritual is about doing, it’s also about feeling. A ritual creates the feeling you desire before you actually get to the doing.

For example, if I want to have rockin’ confidence before a date, I’ll strut around my apartment in high heels. If I want to feel calm, I’ll focus on my exhale breaths. We all have rituals that calm our nerves, get us in the game, or prepare our mindset for focused action. Know yourself and what you need to get in the zone.

3. They spend (and love) time alone.

A drop in confidence can come when plans aren’t made or fall through and you’re left with time alone. How empowering is it when this time comes as a gift?!

There’s nothing that revives my confidence more than time alone. Wait, let me clarify: time alone that I occupy with self-love. If I spend my alone time wallowing in misery, I perpetuate my insecurities. When I shower myself with love, in the form of a bubble bath, rest, or yoga, I realign with my core values.

Know what you need to make this precious time with yourself the best time. There is nothing sexier than a woman who ADORES her own company.

4. They take nothing (or very little) personally.

Do you know any confident woman who takes everything personally? Those with true confidence know that any perceived ego blow is more a reflection of the speaker than of them.

When you’re able to hear criticism and not take it personally, your reactions change. You’re able to feel compassion and love for all, regardless of how they treated you. Life isn’t as much of a drama. Confidence emerges naturally with life-love.

5. They ask empowering questions.

We’re constantly making evaluations for what things mean and what we should do. Such neural associations are initiated by questions. Simply, the more empowering questions we ask ourselves, the more confident we will be.

If you ask disempowering questions like, “Why does this always happen to me?” your mind will come up with an answer. In contrast, ask, “What am I happy about now? What could I be happy about if I wanted to?” Or if there is a problem, ask, “What is great about this problem? What can I feel grateful for?” Then you can shift into the confidence required to solve it.

When empowering questions become second nature, you have no choice but to find confidence-inducing answers.

Read original article here: 5 Things Confident Women Do Differently.