Category Archives: Life’s issues

NewYear, NewBeginning

I’ve seen the phenomena many times; people come to see the counselor/psychologist for whatever reason. Diagnosis is often anxiety or depression, which is quite correct, but what many individuals fail to understand is that the root of many of their problems lie in the choices they have made themselves.

Life is about choices, and granted, sometimes making such choices take some chemical intervention. Less anxiety, better choices….making certain choices can be really hard, but the bottom-line is, they are CHOICES. You can decide to cut off connections with a poisonous friend or to stop drinking alcohol, smoking, negative thinking, whatever your vice maybe. Whether you need the support of a professional and a pill or two, well, that is also entirely up to you. In the end, you see, you have the power to change your life, whether you believe it or not.

The problem is, people rarely take responsibility for their own miserable dispositions. They blame it on colleagues, exes, family members, past traumatic events, illness, and so forth. All these are valid reasons to be depressed, yes, and you may have been completely innocent of causing any of these bad events and/or relationship break-ups, but you are still responsible for your own decision to cling to it. I understand that letting go is never easy, therefore you have the option to get help; someone you can talk to who can guide you through your healing process.

Why not decide today to take back control of your life, reclaim your power and move forward, leaving those old hurts behind. Trust me, you CAN, yes, you cannot change the past, it is done, but you can decide today to change your future.

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Come on friends, life can be such a beautiful adventure, a wonderful and precious gift, don’t let old grudges, pains and sorrows it away from you. And if you need help? Don’t ever be embarrassed to reach out; talk to somebody.

This then is my challenge to all: don’t let the past steal your joy, close the door on it and start living YOUR life with gratitude, peace and happiness.

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COLEMAN, Chrystal.  2012.  Persephone Magazine: Positivity Challenge Week 7: Staying Positive at Your Non-Ideal Job.  [Web:] http://bit.ly/2iXoEQZ  [Date of Access:] January 10, 2017.

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MIND INNOVATION.  2014.  Excuses and Negativity – Inspirational Video. [Web:] https:

What a dog can teach us about happiness

via @Artofimproving

Have you ever noticed the positive attitude dogs seem to have? They take every day as it comes and just ENJOY.

This video by Nat Johnson illustrates just that and suggests that we take the hint. Perhaps it is true that we, the ‘masters’ of the animal, can indeed learn something from them.

Read the article here.

Source:

JOHNSON, Nat. n.d. What a dog can teach us about the meaning of life. [Web:] Ideapod.com. [Date of Access:] 8 January 2016

6 Ways to Stop Mentally Beating Yourself Up

Via @PsychToday @selenidotorg by #SarahBest

“It’s time to give yourself a break. After all, you deserve one,” suggests the author. Aren’t we all guilty of this?

Isn’t it strange that, at a time that we seem to have so much compassion for others, we do not have the patience to be kinder to ourselves? Sometimes I wonder if our upbringing had something to do with this behavior. Perhaps we think that by humiliating ourselves, by always belittling and judging every action, we would seem less arrogant and people would not feel threatened by us. Ms Best is right, though, we should be stop being so hard on ourselves. It is only by being less harsh critics of ourselves that we will be able to find true compassion for others.

Do you think you will have difficulty to change your behavior? Here are some tips on how to stop all that negative self-talk:

[Excerpt only. Read full article here.]

1. Listen to your self-talk. When a friend tells you that you look ”good”, do you think, “I do feel great!”or do you wonder if she’s implying you are fat/wearing too much make-up. The first step to changing how you view yourself is to listen to how you talk to yourself.

2. Evaluate its credibility. Once you’ve tuned in to your self-talk, explore it. Healthy self-talk is based in reality, but unhealthy self-talk distorts it. Unhealthy self-talk triggers real emotions with unrealistic, or irrational, statements. [Read more about irrational thought patterns here.]

3. Examine the evidence. Challenge unhelpful messages.

4. Generate an alternative hypothesis, based on the evidence you do have.

5. Construct a statement to correct the error. Identify the thinking error.

6. Pretend you’re talking to a self-critical friend, and offer words of encouragement to yourself.

[Above six points are discussed in greater detail here.]

We always say that everyone deserves a loving relationship; true, but the most precious loving relationship is the one you have with yourself. By practicing the techniques above, you will find yourself becoming less and less critical of every little thing you do. You will not constantly question the truth of other people’s comments in an effort to further bring yourself down. Accepting compliments from others will become easier and giving yourself some credit will become a habit.

This is not pride, this is self-compassion. Go ahead, try it, you deserve it.

Please click here to read the original article on PsychologyToday.com.

Source:

6 Ways to Stop (Mentally) Beating Yourself Up | Psychology Today

Want to reach career goals? Follow this simple morning routine.

Via @mindbodygreen

Original article by Tyler C Beaty

“For the past 12 years, I’ve worked from home. For 11 of those years, I was working for other people. On my typical day, after hitting the snooze button too many times to count, I’d crawl out of bed…” [1]

Sound familiar? To me it does. I’ve been a stay-at-home-mom for 16 years, but after finding myself in pj’s and still struggling to feed the baby around noon one day, I decided to venture out and DO something with my life.

I studied for a degree in Counseling and decided to further this experience by founding a NPO focusing on the needs of the poor in my community. But still, I got stuck in this rut. Most nights I’d lie awake, waiting for the awful sound of happy little birds twittering hello to the morning (how dare they sound so happy?). I’d worry about the next day and then, when it dawned, it would be business as usual. Kids off to school, husband off to work, household chores done, e-mails, social media….on and on it went….a seemingly useless cycle repeating itself day in and day out. Point is, I was getting nowhere. Worse, I was getting depressed because I felt like I was not doing anything useful.

Reading this article I couldn’t help but smile…..I’m slowly getting into the ”program” suggested by the author and finally I’ve found that I can actually live a useful life. I can actually reach the goals I’ve set for myself. I’m finally taking charge of every day.

Have a read below, I’ve pointed out the different steps suggested by the author, steps you can take to regain control of your days and thus reach your career goals – become what YOU have dreamed of and not what your chaotic life allows you to become. Please DO read the full article here for a more detailed discussion.

  1. Prepare the night before
  2. Meditate
  3. Visualize
  4. Get inspired
  5. Exercise
  6. Keep a journal
  7. Stretch

[Read more details of these 7 points here.]

Ask yourself the question: Do you own your days?

Source:

[1] A Simple Morning Routine That Helped Me Reach My Career Goals & Make More Money – mindbodygreen.com

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