Category Archives: Counseling

Use love to thwart tantrums

#Parenting #TantrumControl #Family #Children #Relationships @HeyParentBaby

All parents know that helpless feeling when your child throws a tantrum. Some of us count our blessings when it happens at home and not in a busy shop. At least you are saved the embarressment and judgmental stares of strangers.

Still, you must find a way to deal with it. The age old trick of distraction usually works, but what if mini-you is unimpressed by your efforts?

Daily Parenting Tips suggests a hug. Asking baby for some love is guaranteed to throw them off track.

Why not try it next time your precious angel turns into an angry little devil?

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Daily Parenting Tips on Twitter: https://twitter.com/HeyParentBaby/status/900296977174454273

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Beat Depression with these Yoga poses

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#Depression #Yoga #Yoga4Healing #MentalHealth #Wellness #LiveWell @Yoga_Journal

Depression is a reality for many people, yet many still brush off the severity of this mental health issue. Once caught in the chains of depression, one cannot simply ‘get over it’. Personally I don’t think anyone can describe exactly how depression feels, what it does to your heart, you soul and your mind, not to  mention your physical body.

For me it has always been like a well. A deep, dark well with slippery walls and a tiny light, high, unreachable above. You are trapped down in the dark with no way out and your sorrow drowns out everything else. Other sufferers may have a different idea about depression. Each one of us is, after all, different. One thing, though, when you are ‘down in the well’, you have NO energy or motivation to change your disposition. You want out, of course, but lack the strength.

This is why yoga seems like the holy grail for depression sufferers. The low impact, gentle poses takes little effort. There is no pressure to perform while you exercise your physical body. By focusing on your breathing, yoga turns your attention to something else than your depression and through meditation you may find the path that can lead to healing. Another benefit is that it can be done at home. You don’t need to go to yoga class until you feel ready to face the world again.

Richard Rosen shares a sequence of yoga poses that has been specifically developed to ease the symptoms of depression. These nine poses are very easy to master and even those of you who have never been in a yoga class will be able to understand the instructions. You can find the sequence here.

Once you’ve mastered Rosen’s sequence, why not try a new combination of poses. There are plenty to choose from. Those which will help with your depression can be found on yogajournal.com. Click here.

The secret is to start slow, do not push yourself too hard. Try to repeat your sequence at least three times a week. As your confidence grows, you can invite your partner or friend to join you and, eventually, you will feel well enough to go to a class, meet more people and become a whole person once again.

Namaste.

SOURCES:

ROSEN, Richard. 2012.  Dissolve Depression [Web:] Yoga Journalbit.ly/2v1sgH2

YOGA JOURNAL. Yoga for Depression. [Web:] Yoga Journalbit.ly/2vbu4wj

 

 

Defining #Depression @beyondblue #MentalHealth

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“While we all feel sad, moody or low from time to time, some people experience these feelings intensely, for long periods of time (weeks, months or even years) and sometimes without any apparent reason. Depression is more than just a low mood – it’s a serious condition that affects your physical and mental health.” [Beyond Blue]

I’m sure that many depression sufferers will agree with  me that, when you are on your lowest, when you are down in the dark, you feel like no-one on earth can understand what you are going through.

You think that feeling bad is your fault, like you had a choice. You feel so alone. The thing is that many thousands of people are suffering just like you. Websites like Beyond Blue brings hope to depressives. It creates a safe environment where people can discover the truth about their disease and find a way out of their own, personal darkness.

Why don’t you pay them a visit today? Click here.

If you wish to discuss your depression with  me, please complete the contact form below and I’ll be in touch.

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BEYOND BLUEWhat is Depression?  [Web:] sta.cr/2Ozux  [Date of Access:] June 21, 2017.

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NewYear, NewBeginning

I’ve seen the phenomena many times; people come to see the counselor/psychologist for whatever reason. Diagnosis is often anxiety or depression, which is quite correct, but what many individuals fail to understand is that the root of many of their problems lie in the choices they have made themselves.

Life is about choices, and granted, sometimes making such choices take some chemical intervention. Less anxiety, better choices….making certain choices can be really hard, but the bottom-line is, they are CHOICES. You can decide to cut off connections with a poisonous friend or to stop drinking alcohol, smoking, negative thinking, whatever your vice maybe. Whether you need the support of a professional and a pill or two, well, that is also entirely up to you. In the end, you see, you have the power to change your life, whether you believe it or not.

The problem is, people rarely take responsibility for their own miserable dispositions. They blame it on colleagues, exes, family members, past traumatic events, illness, and so forth. All these are valid reasons to be depressed, yes, and you may have been completely innocent of causing any of these bad events and/or relationship break-ups, but you are still responsible for your own decision to cling to it. I understand that letting go is never easy, therefore you have the option to get help; someone you can talk to who can guide you through your healing process.

Why not decide today to take back control of your life, reclaim your power and move forward, leaving those old hurts behind. Trust me, you CAN, yes, you cannot change the past, it is done, but you can decide today to change your future.

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Come on friends, life can be such a beautiful adventure, a wonderful and precious gift, don’t let old grudges, pains and sorrows it away from you. And if you need help? Don’t ever be embarrassed to reach out; talk to somebody.

This then is my challenge to all: don’t let the past steal your joy, close the door on it and start living YOUR life with gratitude, peace and happiness.

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COLEMAN, Chrystal.  2012.  Persephone Magazine: Positivity Challenge Week 7: Staying Positive at Your Non-Ideal Job.  [Web:] http://bit.ly/2iXoEQZ  [Date of Access:] January 10, 2017.

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MIND INNOVATION.  2014.  Excuses and Negativity – Inspirational Video. [Web:] https:

6 Ways to Stop Mentally Beating Yourself Up

Via @PsychToday @selenidotorg by #SarahBest

“It’s time to give yourself a break. After all, you deserve one,” suggests the author. Aren’t we all guilty of this?

Isn’t it strange that, at a time that we seem to have so much compassion for others, we do not have the patience to be kinder to ourselves? Sometimes I wonder if our upbringing had something to do with this behavior. Perhaps we think that by humiliating ourselves, by always belittling and judging every action, we would seem less arrogant and people would not feel threatened by us. Ms Best is right, though, we should be stop being so hard on ourselves. It is only by being less harsh critics of ourselves that we will be able to find true compassion for others.

Do you think you will have difficulty to change your behavior? Here are some tips on how to stop all that negative self-talk:

[Excerpt only. Read full article here.]

1. Listen to your self-talk. When a friend tells you that you look ”good”, do you think, “I do feel great!”or do you wonder if she’s implying you are fat/wearing too much make-up. The first step to changing how you view yourself is to listen to how you talk to yourself.

2. Evaluate its credibility. Once you’ve tuned in to your self-talk, explore it. Healthy self-talk is based in reality, but unhealthy self-talk distorts it. Unhealthy self-talk triggers real emotions with unrealistic, or irrational, statements. [Read more about irrational thought patterns here.]

3. Examine the evidence. Challenge unhelpful messages.

4. Generate an alternative hypothesis, based on the evidence you do have.

5. Construct a statement to correct the error. Identify the thinking error.

6. Pretend you’re talking to a self-critical friend, and offer words of encouragement to yourself.

[Above six points are discussed in greater detail here.]

We always say that everyone deserves a loving relationship; true, but the most precious loving relationship is the one you have with yourself. By practicing the techniques above, you will find yourself becoming less and less critical of every little thing you do. You will not constantly question the truth of other people’s comments in an effort to further bring yourself down. Accepting compliments from others will become easier and giving yourself some credit will become a habit.

This is not pride, this is self-compassion. Go ahead, try it, you deserve it.

Please click here to read the original article on PsychologyToday.com.

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6 Ways to Stop (Mentally) Beating Yourself Up | Psychology Today