Author Archives: Sharon Halliday Hattingh

About Sharon Halliday Hattingh

NOTE: THIS BLOG IS A HODGE-PODGE OF STUFF. I STARTED IT AS A DIARY, BUT IT INCLUDES MY READING LISTS, THOUGHTS WHILE DOING BIBLE STUDY, THINGS THAT I FANCY AND NOTES TO MYSELF...LEST I FORGET SOMETHING. THE IDEAS AND THOUGHTS EXPRESSED IS NOT MEANT TO OFFEND ANYONE, BUT A GIRL HAS TO HAVE A PLACE TO HAVE HER SAY, DON'T YOU AGREE! HERE'S A BRIEF 'HISTORY' - married since 1988, stay-at-home mom of 3, graduated cum laude from Calvary University, degree in Counselling, registered Ethnohealth Practitioner Interested in psychology, parapsychology, psychic phenomena, religion, sociology, pathology Read novels by Stephen King, Dean Koontz, Joe Hill, Jonathan Kellerman, Nelson De Mille, Robin Cooke, Henry Denker, Peter James, Isaac Asimov, Barbara Erskine, Robert Heinlein, Clive Barker, Tolkien, Shakespeare etc., etc. Love horror movies (NOT slasher flicks, unless its Halloween!) Fav actor is Harrison Ford Fav movie is Amadeus (with the Lord of the Rings Trilogy at its heels) Loves all music, especially classics by Wagner, Mozart, Verdi, Orff and Tschaikovsky (music is the rhythm of life) Basically I'm just someone, living my life to the best of my abilities, enjoying each moment that God presents to me with passion and gratitude. Life is such a blessing, but we often forget that the hardships and challenges are the stepping stones we have to climb, bump against or fall over before we can truly find peace within our own souls. And no, I am NOT a philosopher OR a psycho, it took me 40 years to understand that happiness comes from inside ourselves and it is our responsibility to seek it.

Daily Wellness Inspiration: B Burchard

21 March

#DailyWellnessInspiration #BBurchard

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Low self-esteem? These ideas will help you love yourself

19 March

#SelfImprovement #SelfEsteem #SelfLove #MentalWellness #BalancedLife

I recently watched a programme about the late Whitney Houston and was shocked to learn from the commentary that she had extremely low self-esteem. One would never suspect that, don’t you think?

She had it all; a successful career, a Godgiven talent, a beautiful child, wealth, fame and beauty. It is actually so very sad. The lady who spoke about her actually said that she was such a wonderful person, with a good heart, filled with kindness and love, but she felt NOT GOOD ENOUGH.

This is such a disease of our times. Most of us feel that we’ve disappointed someone. We feel we are never enough, despite all our efforts. Why is it that we crave acceptance by others SO much that we feel less the person we are, because we don’t get recognition?

You know what, it is time for us to understand that no one will ever be satisfied anyway, so we need to accept that we will ALWAYS disappoint someone. We live in a world of takers and givers. The givers keep on supplying love and support, caring and kindness, while the takers keep on demanding. You can only do your best and that should be good enough for you.

We have people in this world that makes a habit of bringing others down. They think it is hilarious if they make fun of you or your job, and we let them make us feel very small indeed. We need to STOP allowing that kind of behaviour. Do NOT let those people poison your mind with their insensitive and cruel remarks. I know one rarely has the courage to tell them off, but at least try to ignore them. If you find the strength to speak up, do not try to defend yourself, you have no reason to. These people actually need to know how sorry we feel for them. Obviously they suffer from severe low self-esteem too, seeing that they need to walk all over your efforts so that their dim light can shine brighter.

Look at yourself in the mirror and say out loud: “I love you. I accept you. You are good enough.” And no, it is NOT pride speaking here. There is NO pride in having self-love and self-appreciation. If you know that you’ve tried your best and are the best you can be, you have NOTHING to be ashamed of.

In the end we only have to please ourselves. We need to NOT disappoint ourselves. Other people’s opinions of you do not count at all. As I said above, the people that criticize you and bring you down, most probably do it with everyone they encounter and why? Because they need to degrade others in order to feel superior. THEY HAVE A PROBLEM NOT YOU!

So:

DO accept yourself

DO love yourself

DO encourage yourself

DO appreciate yourself

Because, in the end, it is all about you. You are a creation of God, you have been made perfectly (despite what you may think), you have a unique purpose in this life, and you owe it to yourself to find kindness in your heart for YOU!

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