When you are quite the procrastinator, like I am, you can make endless to-do-lists, you’re a master at goal-setting (in print, that is) and you never really get anything done. There is always some silly reason why: I can’t go to the gym; I can’t finish this assignment, because there is not enough time… On and on it goes…
Dr Thompson makes an interesting suggestion in her article for MindBodyGreen (read it here). She writes: “Saying can’t takes away your power, and in some ways provides an excuse for not moving forward toward your goals or fulfilling your commitments.
So, how can you shift your mindset to sidestep this problem? Replace can’twith won’t.” 
Now your ”reasons” for not reaching your goal will sound different: I won’t go to the gym; I won’t finish this assignment.
That little word ”won’t” changes things….it gives back your power. Perhaps you won’t, but that doesn’t mean you can’t…”won’t” creates the possibility of a different choice, one with a different outcome.
Dr Thompson continues to advise on how we can implement this in our lives:
- Reflect on the truth – what is the real reason you are not reaching your goal. What is keeping you from moving forward?
- Make a commitment to yourself – having decided that your goal is indeed important to you, you need to make a deal with yourself and write it down! Put it somewhere where you can always see it. This will keep you motivated.
- Tell others about your goal – this will help to keeping you motivated, because people tend to ask about your progress and you would not want to lose face by telling them you’ve given up again.
- Repeat the process if necessary – sometimes, despite your efforts, you may lose your ”happy thoughts” and be unable to finish what you started. This can be the result of unforeseen circumstances or you could lose your passion for the project. Whatever it may be, remind yourself constantly of the ”can’t”/”won’t” mind-shift, and take the necessary steps to accomplish your goal.
[Please read the full article here.]