Let’s face it: Some people are far more decent than others.
Researchers have studied this tendency and labeled it Honesty-Humility (1), a personality factor or “super-trait” that has been observed across many cultures. Individuals high on this trait are sincere, modest, fair-minded, and non-greedy. They do not exploit others, even when there would be no retaliation for doing so. Individuals at the low end of this trait, on the other hand, are dishonest, haughty, and arrogant. They lack empathy and exploit others. In a word, they are narcissistic.
After enduring a good bit of exploitation, lying, and cheating in such relationships, the honest person often wonders, “How did I allow myself to end up with this person?” or, “What is wrong with me that I tolerated such obvious manipulation and exploitation?”