Let’s look at five mental traps that can mess up intimate relationships. I’ll share an antidote for each. If you catch yourself in one or more of these, you can take steps on your own to break free and develop an appealing calm composure.
You may see your mate in some of these traps, but you don’t have to call them to your mate’s attention and put your his or her nose to the fire. Instead, by working to develop a calm composure on your own, you’ll be in a good position to non-threateningly encourage your partner to work with you and work out problems that plague your relationship.
At the end of this post, you’ll find the common threat that connects each trap. Snap that thread, and you’ll open new opportunities to enjoy your relationship as well as your life.
1. Distressing Demands
If your partner caters to your every wish, you’ve found a robot, not a mate.
People can upset themselves by imposing demands and expecting immediate compliance. You cannot reasonably expect your mate to cater to your every whim. People will not always do what you want—and such expectations invariably lead to exasperation.
Continue reading original article here: 5 Mental Traps Relationships Can’t Escape | Psychology Today.